Personally speaking, I’m a relatively private person. Are you?
So, on one level, the thought of someone watching who I am and what I do behind the scenes is….. an intriguing proposition.
But, on the other hand, I don’t have anything to hide. Especially professionally.
I don’t make claims I can’t back up.
I don’t advocate for a path that I don’t walk myself.
I regularly practice meaningful, core practices that cultivate my best vitality, nourish my inspiration and connectedness to a deeper purpose, fuel my body optimally, and operate my professional life with integrity.
Am I perfect? Nope. Do I “have it all together”? I don’t even know what that means….and neither do you, really.
But---nothing to hide. I invite you to let that sink in for a moment.
Can you also say that you have nothing to hide?
Let’s set aside your privacy preferences, so the insight here can land.
Who are YOU when no one is looking?
You’ll likely notice one of two responses come up:
You might say you believe something, but that declaration isn’t showing up in your actions. You might realize you aren’t doing your own work. You aren’t living what you advocate for someone else (especially your prospects and clients). Admitting that gap isn’t a judgment—it’s an opportunity. It’s a chance to reconnect with what you believe, the code you want to live by, what you value, and how you lead your life and your life’s work.
Now for the second response. The response where you open up your “closet of skeletons” and realize--- you genuinely have nothing to hide. You’ve feared it. It seemed scary – but it’s an empty threat. This response is the one that many of my clients find relieving when they chronically struggle with the feeling of “being found out” or “called out” as a fake when they begin to dial up their visibility and voice. (Because most of my clients have high self-awareness and seek to be conscientious humans.)
So, when I give them space to truthfully answer, “who are you when no one is looking….”
They get quiet. That’s how I know they are deeply taking in the question.
They are combing through the archives of their history….and they say…..usually with a surprised smile….. “Me. I’m me, the same as I am now here with you. I have nothing to hide.”
WOW.
What if you have nothing to hide? Feel the truth and power reverberating through that admission.
You walk the walk. You walk your talk.
You live your values. You have already brought Love to your flaws. You practice what you advocate for.
You are “the real deal.” There is a simple, quiet, humble confidence to this admission. You don’t have to be perfect—it’s not about perfection.
It means that you are purposeful, dedicated, and off the sidelines and on the field.
Let’s find your edge of application here.
Are there some incongruencies between what you advocate for and your reality? So, what is asking for your honesty?
Are you the “real deal” with nothing to hide? What is a way that you can drop your guard and dial genuine connection and visibility with someone today?
Welcome the truth. Embrace the summons.